These two questions are on everybody’s lips, especially today when there is so much uncertainty in the world. How would you feel if you had the answers? Relieved, less anxious, happier… I bet the answer is resounding ‘yes’! My goal is to build confidence in women and self-esteem so you can achieve everything that you dream of.

By the time you finish reading this blog, you will understand why it’s super important to have CLARITY on what it is you want and where it is you’re going. You will also be in a better place to start building your dream life, with confidence and appreciation that you are exactly where you need to be at this moment in time. 

We all have to start somewhere. Today is the day for you to start mapping out your journey, to the life of your dreams.

Ok, let’s get going…

Uncertainty ZAPS CONFIDENCE

Being unsure of where your life is heading can be a real confidence drainer. Uncertainty puts you in a state of panic and makes you doubt your future. You feel stuck, time is passing you by way too quickly and you don’t know what to do about it.

It’s a little like this….

Have you ever been alone in your car late at night, driving to a new destination and you get lost? The sat nav goes loopy or your phone runs out of battery (what happened to good old fashioned road maps!) You feel a state of panic because suddenly you don’t know if to turn left or right…fear ignites and you feel powerless. 

THAT ANXIOUS FEELING

This happened to me when I first moved to Devon about 18 months ago. We moved from the city to the country and were suddenly faced with winding, skinny… very skinny lanes, no street lights and everywhere you drive looks exactly the same. Two-way traffic is a challenge, let alone when a tractor pops up out of nowhere, then you really are in the poop! This particular evening, it was dark and I was driving back from the city to our coastal town. My phone battery died, I didn’t have a phone charger and I was using the maps on my phone to get me home. I could have been anywhere. 

I felt the fear, pulled over to where I thought was safe and stopped the engine. I had to give myself a good talking to because I could feel the impact my negative thoughts were having on my body and mind.

In a state of panic the nervous system revs up, you start feeling sick and your body gets ready to take action. In this state, you’re not thinking right and disaster can strike. Not what we want when we are driving a car down a dark, windy country lane!

The same concept works for life. 

If you are moving through life and are unclear on your goals, where it is you are heading and where you want to end up, it leads to fear, doubt and anxiety. I am all about confidence and it’s sure to be impacted in a negative way when you don’t know where you are heading in life. We don’t want that… so let’s change it!

HOW TO GET CLARITY

Getting clear on your goals and what you want out of life is the first step. Small steps every day lead to big changes over time. 

Try asking yourself the following questions:

• What do you want your life to look like?
• What do you love to do? 
• What upsets you? 
• If you could earn money doing anything, what would it be? 
• The people you socialise with, what are they like?
• What are your beliefs?
• What do you value?
• What are your ‘Rules of Life’ – what will you tolerate and what won’t you?
• What are your expectations?
• What mistakes do you keep making and why?
• What’s important to you?

Setting boundaries for your life and how you want to live is a must. From there you can start putting the wheels in motion to tweak and change the stuff that is not in line with what you want.

It’s such a simple exercise but one that so many people miss. 

Clarity is Power!

The old historian Horace Walpole put it perfectly – “When people will not weed their own minds, they are apt to be overrun by nettles”.

BUILDING CONFIDENCE IN WOMEN

Grab your journal and start writing down your life philosophy today. It doesn’t have to be a huge essay, just a few simple sentences are enough. Many different things will arise from you asking yourself these questions. You will be amazed at how creative your mind can be when you let it. Keep your answers brief, don’t overthink it and keep it positive. Focus on the stuff that puts a smile on your face. These ‘Life Rules’ will go on to change your life!

Keep your rules on you at all times. Put them in your phone, on a piece of paper in your wallet – anywhere you can get to them straight away if needed.

Whenever you are faced with something and unsure of what way to turn, check back in with your rules and make your decision from there. Doing this is a sure-fire way of creating the life that you want. If you do this, your decisions will be based on your truest beliefs and values, From there you start mapping the way towards your best life.

WHAT’S YOUR STORY?

Whatever you focus on you attract. When you are constantly visiting your rules, time and time again, you start to reprogram your subconscious mind. This is where the magic happens and you can re-write your story. It’s the stories that we keep telling ourselves that create our reality. If you want a different reality, tell yourself a different story. Over time, your ‘Life Rules’ (your philosophy) becomes your normality – it’s genius!

The meaning of “CLARITY” – The quality of being clear and easy to understand. 

So make your rules simples and draft a story that ignites that glowing ember inside of you. A story that you would love to tell your grandchildren one day, about the life you once dreamt of and then made it your reality. They then gro up, adopt your inspiration walk in your footsteps!

So let’s wrap it up…. 

• Get clear on what you want your life to be, understand it, embrace it, replay it over and over in your mind. Ask yourself the right questions (listed above) and record your answers.
• Put your ‘Life Rules’ all over the place and revisit them daily. 

Clarity leads to Confidence in Women

Living in line with your truest beliefs eliminates the doubt, fears of other people’s opinions and the worry you have, of not being enough. Having clarity will increase your confidence, build your self-esteem and then you are calmly walking down the right path, to the life of your dreams.

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